As we approach the holiday season, the air fills with the fragrance of cinnamon and pine, while twinkling lights and festive decor transform our homes into winter wonderlands. But for many Christian moms, the holiday season brings not just joy but a hefty dose of guilt. We often stress about creating the perfect Christmas experience for our families and, in doing so, set the bar impossibly high for ourselves. Today, let’s talk about why giving up that guilt is not only beneficial for you but also for your family as you strive to create heartfelt memories this holiday season.
Guilt can manifest in various forms. Maybe you worry about not spending enough quality time with your children because you’re caught up in planning and preparations. Or perhaps you feel inadequate because you can’t afford to buy the latest gadgets or toys. Whatever the source, guilt has a way of tarnishing what should be a joyful time. Remember that guilt does not come from God. The Bible teaches us that “There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus” (Romans 8:1). So why weigh yourself down with self-imposed burdens?
By giving up guilt, you make room for what truly matters: your relationship with God and your family. Your children won’t remember every dish you prepared or how elaborately you decorated your home, but they will remember the time spent laughing, playing, and celebrating the birth of Jesus together. The holidays offer a unique opportunity to teach them the core Christian values of love, kindness, and gratitude. So, don’t rob yourself or your family of these beautiful experiences by dwelling on what you think you should be doing.
Now, you might be thinking, “It’s easier said than done.” And you’re right; shaking off guilt, especially when societal pressures loom large, can prove challenging. But take some practical steps to ease the burden.
First, prioritize your tasks and let go of the less important ones. You don’t have to attend every holiday event or make a five-course meal from scratch. Choose activities and traditions that foster connection and spiritual growth. Delegate tasks among family members to involve everyone in the preparations and create a sense of shared responsibility.
Another effective strategy is to create new, simpler traditions. This year, how about baking cookies together or crafting homemade ornaments? You can even organize a Bible story night where everyone gathers around to read and discuss the Christmas story. These activities not only lighten your load but also create opportunities for quality family time. Your children will cherish these traditions and probably continue them with their own families one day.
Lastly, let’s not forget the importance of self-care. While taking time for yourself may seem selfish or indulgent, it is, in fact, necessary. A well-rested, content mom makes a happier, more loving home. Remember the words of Jesus in Matthew 11:28-30, “Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.” Take a few moments each day to read Scripture, pray, or simply sit quietly and reflect. This time with God can refresh your spirit and help you refocus on the true meaning of the holiday season.
Moms, as the holiday season unfolds, I encourage you to relinquish the guilt that so easily entangles. Dive wholeheartedly into the festivities with a spirit of grace, both for yourself and others. Enjoy your children, involve them simple holiday rhythms and routine s to create memories that will last for a lifetime.
is the Founder and CEO of Spark Media. Misty empowers faith-based podcasters to launch, grow, and monetize their shows through community, events, the Spark Media magazine and podcast network, and a radio initiative. She is the host of By His Grace, and the co-host of Spark Influence. Misty is the author of award-winning Bible study entitled The Struggle is Real: But so is God, and the Spark Podcast Planner. For more information visit her websites at SparkMedia.Ventures and MistyPhillip.com